My kids ALL want to be the one to choose the show. They ALL want to help in the kitchen. They ALL want to pick the drink for supper. NONE of them want to help with dishes. NONE of the them want to set the table. Based on this post by I Can Teach My Child we dealt with it all in one fell swoop.
Every day, based on age order, we get a new helper. Each child spends 3 days doing something and one day "off". Sometimes that means they do or get a lot and other times it doesn't really affect them. It all depends on how our day goes.
If it's their choice day then that child gets to make all the choices for the day. They also get to be first at everything. So they get to choose the show, what we have to drink for supper, what they want for lunch, and on and on. They love it when it's their choice day. I love that I'm not constantly trying to remember whose turn it is for each indivual thing.
The Kitchen Helper gets to help with meals. They also set the table at supper time. Over all they really like this job and I like that it gets them in the kitchen more.
The dishes helper helps clean out the strainer (to the best of their ablitity) and they help rinse and put dishes in the strainer when mom is doing a new load.
These three things have taken so much "thinking" and "remembering" away from me and taken a lot of fight out of our day.