Monday, August 3, 2009

Addilece's Birth and My Hysterectomy

I'm sure many of you are wondering the details behind our beautiful daughters birth and the later, unexpected hysterectomy that I had to have. I wrote up a time line of the events that took place.

Friday, July 31, 2009

9:00 am- Arrive at BroMenn for my weekly doctor's appointment, dialated at a 2

9:30- water broke while doctor was checking the heartbeat

11:00-mild contractions start

Noon- Hooked up to Pitocin in order to help with contractions, offically considered in labor because my water broke but still not contracting like I should be. Dialated to a 2 to 3 cm

1:30 pm- Moved to 5 cm. Contrations were starting to pick up as Piciton was up, coming any where from 2 min to 30 seconds apart

3:30- Shift change in nurses, getting ready to move to a new room (mine didn't have a labor bed), dialted to a 6-7. Orders epidural, contractions are 30 seconds apart usually, sometimes a minute.

After 4- Epidural gets put in

The anistesiologist (sp?) was there for about a 1/2 hour. 10 minutes after he left I felt the overwelhming urge to push. I was fully dialated. My nurse did one push with me and had my doctor come in. I pushed for 25 minutes and then our beautiful baby girl was born.

5:13- Addilece was born

6:45- Addilece gets her first bath and I get ready to move to my post pardium room

8:00- In my post pardium room

9:00- They begin to realize that I am passing way to much blood

9:30- Dr. Dameron comes in and explains that we need to do a D&C. When I delievered my placenta came out in peices. They thought they got it all out, but the bleeding was a sign they hadn't. I would keep bleeding until it came out.

10:10- They take me to the OR to begin the proceedor, it was a 10 minute operation with a 1 hr recovery. My parents decide to stay until I'm out of surgery to make sure everything went alright. Tony is up in Mother/Baby with Addilece.

11:30- Tony realizes that things aren't going right and goes to talk to the nurses. They told him that Dr. Dameron had finally got the bleeding to stop and they were just checking with an sonagram to make sure everything was out

Midnight- Dr. Dameron comes to tell Tony that I was bleeding pretty heavily again. They had tried everything, even several medicanes. However, a piece of the placenta was wedged in the muscle of the placenta. They could try for one more minute but they were going to have to do a hysterectomy of the bleeding would not stop. Tony gave his verbal consent (by the time he signed consent forms a little bit later they were already half way through the operation).

Saturday, August 1, 2009

1:45 am- I wake up from the operation. They bring Tony in the room. I realize that between the time and Tony things weren't right. Dr. Dameron explained to me what had to be done. I don't remember all of it but I remember thinking, I don't know if I heard her right, did she really say that. I know I asked her "So I won't be able to have anymore kids?" She had left my eggs so I will not be thrown into menopause and Tony and I have the option of serigacy (sp?) some day.

At this point I headed up the ICU where I was poked and proded and josteled around (not such a fun expirence).

2:30- Dr. Dameron finally heads home (she is such an amazing doctor, she stayed with me the entire time)

3:00 and on- My parents come in to visit for a bit and check on me. Tony's dad and brother also come in, Tony called them about half way through the whole thing. They were such a huge blessing as they held Addilece and were a support to Tony.

I spent the next of the rest of Saturday in the ICU. They allowed me to pump a few times in order to get Addilece something to eat. Around 6 they brought her down and I was able to breast feed her. Tony and I spent 20 to 30 minutes together as a family and then they took her back upstairs. Finally at 11:30ish they brought me back to my Mother/Baby room.

I will probably spend some time on here, later blogging about our thoughts and feelings on the situation. Tony and I are more then willing to answer any questions that anybody has. We want to be as open as possible about this. We know that God has an amazing plan for our family. We are praying that we are open and aware of how God would use us. Thank you for your prayers.

Many people have asked what you can do to help. We are so grateful for your love and support. At this time I do not know what we need. We know we have people from our church brining meals and we have family coming to help out for a bit. At this point what we need more then anything is your prayers. We know we will need a support system and people to keep us accountable as we parent this precious child. We are deeply grateful for those of you that we know God is already preparing for that position.


Mrs. Roberts said...

So sorry to hear about your hysterectomy but God has a plan for you. Just trust in Him. God blessed you with a little baby girl who will melt your heart. She is going to be so special to you, just don't spoil her rotten. All three of my kids are pretty much spoiled rotten. I had a hysterectomy this summer so I know how uncomfortable you must be right now. Ashley was reading your facebook and I just had to check it out and let you know that you are in my prayers. If I can help in anyway, let me know. In the meantime, enjoy that darling baby and take it easy and rejoice that God has given you this precious gift.Leave the rest to
God.You can't go wrong with Him.

Mrs. Roberts

Bob said...

It takes great courage and character to share this. Ingrid and I are overjoyed, and brokenhearted, for you, at the same time. There is a plan and purpose; God has not brought you this far to abandon you. Continue to rely on Him.

Love you all very much.

The Abundant Life said...

Praise God for how He went before you and the obvious care that He is giving you now!! Your openness is a testimony of the peace that you have and I know will use your testimony in the lives of many!!! Know that we are praying for you guys. God always brings beauty out of ashes!! We pray He will do something wonderful in your lives through this!!!
Love to you guys,
Delia for all the Tiarks'

Andrea said...


What a bittersweet story. I am so glad to hear that you and your family are doing well post-surgery. Thank you for sharing your story; I am sure others will be inspired by your willingness to share your experience.

Best of luck to you and your family,


Wendy said...

Oh Baby i'm sorry to hear all of this! All I can do is echo the comments and say that God has a plan and i'm praying for you. Addilece is so beautiful, i'm glad that God gave her to you and Tony! Y'all are going to be such wonderful parents!

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