If you know our family or you've been on our blog for several years then you most likely know our past. However, if you are new around here, then you might not know our history. Within hours of Addilece's birth I was taken into emergency surgery for D&C that led to an emergency hysterectomy. I was hemorrhaging and it saved my life. You can read more of that story here.
We were 21 years old. It was not only a shock to our system but to many others, as well. A young couple, just starting their family and suddenly they're unable to have the children they have been dreaming and hoping for all their lives.
When we talked about adoption and went into foster care my heart hoped for a baby. I'm thankful for a husband that through that time didn't shoot down that notion but also reminded me that God would place the children he desired into our home. We were licensed 0 to 10 and while a part of me still hoped for a baby to adopt I knew deep down, that wasn't were God was leading us. We were suppose to foster older kids, which was quickly confirmed with a call that included two 2 (almost 3) year olds as the youngest children.
However, that elusive baby that we should have, we still have many people pushing for it. They are well meaning, caring people. It's still hard to wrap their minds around a young couple, who aren't able to have what they "want" (or rather what we used to want). I love that people are so supportive. However, God choosing not to give us an infant is not because God is denying us anything.
Is a baby what will fill our family? Make it complete? No. Only God can fill and complete our family. A baby, placed in our family by my own desire and not God's, would be harmful. Us seeking to fill our hearts on our own only creates hurt. God must be the one to fill our hearts. Each child he places in our home, regardless of age, is placed their for a reason. It would be easy to justify the pursuit of a baby. Many people would support and even encourage it. However, without God as the center of that decision (which he is not right now), it would mean putting a burden to fill a need on a child, rather then on God.
I'm pretty sure we will never get a baby. It's just not where God
has placed us. Would I like one? Yes. Do I need one? No. It's not
what completes me or fills me.